Ways to make overtime easier

In most work fields, overtime is bound to happen at sometime. It of course has it’s good and bad sides. The good usually being some extra income, the bad being you can really miss your husband. Today I’m going to focus on when your husband works overtime as I am currently in this part of life. My husband has been working about 58 hours a week vs the normal 40. While we are super blessed for the extra income- especially with a baby on the way and with us trying to move, it hasn’t been fun, I may have even shed a tear or two (you can blame that on the hormones if you’d like but really any non-pregnant person could easily cry over this as well). Those extra hours really cut into your time together no matter when the overtime is spent (in my case, my husband works 2nd shift) and suddenly it sort of feels like you haven’t seen your husband in weeks, even though you have. It can be tough so allow me to share with you ways I conquer the time.

Keep Busy: In your down time, it can be easy to focus on the negative. It can be easy to focus on the fact that he’s not there and that your day is going down differently. But keeping your mind distracted can be a strong and powerful tool to get through any rough time. Pick up a new book (I really like starting a whole book series), find a new Netflix show to binge on (I have really liked New Girl, I just started Pretty Little Liars, and I have heard a lot of rave reviews of The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt), pick up an old or new hobby, hang out with friends, deep clean the house, start a new work out routine (I really suggest taking up Yoga), and the list goes on!

Focus on the future: Usually overtime is a temporary thing, it can help to keep this in mind and focus on a time coming up soon when things will be back to normal. Plan a date night to catch up on time together- it will give you something to look forward to. And knowing things are only for a short season can bring some positivity back to your mind that has been a little down later.

Keep up the communication: Make the most of any time you can talk with your spouse, breaks, when he gets home, before bed, before he goes into work. Your time is a little more limited for now so it’s even more important to make the most of your conversations and stay connected. Stay about your days, talk about your feelings, talk about your plans. Turn the TV off for awhile when you chat so you can really spend the time connecting instead of being distracted. Then get back into your normal routine so things feel as normal as usual and your hubby can get optimal rest time!

Hang in there ladies and really focus on the positives that come along, even if it is just extra income.

Advertisements

#BreakYouMake My deserving mother

As I sit here, drinking my fruit smoothie, eating my granola, listening to some soft music I feel at such peace. Life has been good to me lately, I have been blessed beyond measure. I am so happy to have these kinds of moments to sit and relax and reflect on my life. I understand that this is a blessing in itself. There are so many people out there in today’s world that lack these type of blissful moments in time. They are busy running from one place to another, distracted with phone calls and emails, without a second to lose. I was just reading a questionnaire that Chobani Flip had conducted and they said nearly half of the people they asked don’t take a break and most of them only got one if they scheduled it. It was then that I realized just how blessed I actually was for my breaks. I don’t have to skip a break, I don’t have to find time to relax for a second, and I then realized that there are so many people out there living lives without something I have easily taken for granted.

My mother is one of those people. She has been one of these people for as long as I can remember. Which is why I am nominating her for Chobani Flip’s #BreakYouMake movement. When I read about what Chobani Flip was doing and the facts they had found, I thought of my mother the entire time as I read along. And if you knew my mother, you would too. But since you don’t, let me tell you a little bit about her.

Looking at my mother, you see beauty, happiness, and an immense amount of joy. Which are only three things my mother is filled with. There is much more than meets the eyes with her. YIMG_2100ou would never imagine this joyful and bright person who lights up the room, had experienced a lot of loss in her life or that she has been through tough times in her life. Times that not all of us are forced to dealt with. She has and will always be the strongest person I know. If I were to lose my mother, my sibling, and my child like she had in just a few years time, I think I would break. Well, I know I would. I couldn’t imagine that a smile so beautiful would ever cross my face. But with her, I’ve known it the entire 23 years I have been in this world. During the hard times when she was raising me as a single mother, during those times she was so exhausted she couldn’t imagine walking another step, let alone go into her 12th hour of work, even during the times when I was being a bratty teenager and all I wanted to do is push her buttons, she smiled. Through everything her smile remains, but…she is still going, and I would love more than anything for her to get a break that she deserves more than anything, a break she would never ask for, because she is also completely selfless.

Speaking of her selflessness, here my mother is volunteering her only day off that week to help the needy in our community. She got up at the crack of dawn, instead of sleeping in- IMG_2098something she never experiences-, and went out on the very cold and rainy day that it was, and helped pick up families that had no transportation to make it to this event to receive the help they desperately needed, and then she stayed and worked. She spent her day handing out free food and clothes to those who were struggling instead of staying in bed like most of us would. Oh, and there’s that smile again! 🙂

IMG_2097

and smiling again! Even without a camera pointed at her.

IMG_2101

So why does she only get one day off here and there? Well, you may not be able to tell, but in this picture she is working her second job. That she clocks in at, at 5pm right after she clocks out at her other job at 4:30. She barely has enough time to make it there, let alone enjoy a nice break. But, she spends the rest of her night, on her tired feet and helping customers with that famous smile on her face that spreads warmth wherever she goes. And as you can see, she doesn’t let her aching feet get her down- she’s too busy making silly faces, because she loves life despite what falls on her. She needs that second job because being a single mom in this world is tough, and without complaint, she makes the very best of it.

IMG_2095 (1)

As you probably guessed by now, but just in case you didn’t, she is also full of LOVE. Love for everyone she meets. Just last month, a customer had sent in her granddaughter to pay her bill at my mother’s first job, and she shared with my mom her bike had been stolen. So what did my mom do? Because of her loving heart, she found that little girl a bike and took it to her, just 2 days later. The little girl in the picture, she is the beautiful Abby.Our baby cousin, who my mom would easily lay her life down for. Regardless of her not being her own child, which you would never know because my mom treats her and everyone else in this world, as if the were her own. She doesn’t meet a stranger and she makes sure to spread her love to not just her cousin, or the little girl without a bike, but to every person she will ever come across, no matter who they are.

IMG_2096

How is this woman, that has dealt with so much, so happy? Look in this picture. You will see her at the very front of the church, lifting her hands up to the Lord, and praising her for all of the blessings he has given her. She doesn’t see darkness, she doesn’t see negativity, she doesn’t see anything bad in this world. All she sees is good, despite what she has faced because her faith is unshakable.

My mother is my hero, she has shown me what strength, love, compassion, and joy are without even explaining those words to me. All I had to do is grow up by her side, and I am so glad God allowed me to. My mother works, 14 hour days every week, sees the inside of her home very rarely, serves the community on her very little downtime, and always makes time to thank God for her blessings. She goes and goes, and she does not stop, unless it comes to helping someone and sharing a smile. So Chobani Flip, if there is anyone in this world that deserves a break, it’s this incredible woman I have featured here. If there’s anything in this world I hope to never do, it’s to take her heart for granted.

Please visit breakyoumake.com and http://www.chobani.com/products/flip#strawberry-summer-crisp to find out more about Chobani Flip and how they are helping people across the world, like my mom, realize the importance of a break, and just how to make the most of it.

Let’s hear it for hard working people like my mother and for Chobani Flip for helping people enjoy their breaks a little lot more.

Chobani pic

A day in the life of a Stay at Home WIFE.

A day in the life

Some of you are reading this because of general curiosity, some because you are rolling your eyes at the idea of a Stay at Home wife, some because you can relate, and some just because you are an awesome reader! 🙂 Whatever the reason that brings you here, I just want to say thank you for reading this and I hope that this can shed some light on some things.

If I had just a penny for each time one of the following conversations have happened to me, we would be able to afford my husband to quit his job also.

  • People ask me if I feel guilty.
  • People ask me why I don’t work in a working age.
  • People tell me it is so great for my children (I don’t have children yet.)
  • People give off a very judgmental silence when I tell them my husband works and I take care of our home.
  • People give their unwarranted opinion of the fact that I am a Stay at Home Wife.
  • People go on and on about the negatives of what I am doing.

Now don’t get me wrong, not everyone comes with a big whopping negative and some questions are given to me because the person can relate to my position in life. I have had many working people tell me that I am lucky, I have had some people tell me the good work I do is much appreciated, and I have had some people go on about the benefits of being a Stay at Home wife in agreement (even the one’s that work). I so appreciate the people who can see the positives in what I do and what I have chosen to do with my life and for my family (present and future). 

I think we can all agree that being a Stay at Home Wife comes with quite a stigma. We can be viewed as lazy, spoiled, or just not motivated enough for the working world, among other things. Many people think we just sleep in, take naps, have snacks, go run around town, and watch our favorite TV shows, all while our husband’s are working hard to keep us up like the spoiled little princesses we are (sarcasm). When it truly isn’t that way. With most stigma’s, it’s completely inaccurate. Which is why I feel the need to share my day to day activities. Not that I need to or have to. As far as I’m concerned the only people I have to justify myself to is God and my Husband. BUT I want to stand up for other’s like me who are in the same boat. No, this blog post won’t end the stigma, it won’t stop the questions, and it’s not going to make the people of the world who don’t understand us, understand us. But I have hopes that maybe it will shed some understanding or realization to someone, some where, who may just not get why we do what we do. 

Back in the fall right before I got married, I had a pretty decent job that I was fairly happy with. It was one of the better jobs I had ever had in my 5 years of being in the working world (I had worked since the day I turned 16). Not my favorite but a pretty good one. Well it seemed that way, shortly after being hired on and leaving my previous job I was laid off. What a blow. My wedding was in 6 months and Christmas was a month away which meant everyone was stocked up on holiday employees and was about to enter the slow season and I didn’t have enough time to find a good job that would give me time off in just a few months for my wedding. So the original plan was that I would return to work. I had to. Our family needed 2 incomes. So we got through the winter and the wedding and soon after my husband landed an amazing job. So amazing that his income was more than our 2 incomes we had had combined. The only downfall was that he would work 2nd shift. Which meant if I were to go back to work, we would rarely see each other because I would more than likely have a 1st shift job. It didn’t take long for us to figure out that the best choice for us would be for me to stay home. We could see each other and his income was more than enough to hold us up. Why would I go back to the working world when I was more than happy taking care of my husband and our home (something I had always been really good at), we had enough money to cover all of our bases and then some- just so I could never see my husband? It would be different if I had a job I loved, or if working was what made me truly happy. But it wasn’t the case, seeing him made me happy and all of our needs and wants were being met with his pay alone. So that’s what began our journey 1.5 years ago.

Since then I have gotten this Stay at Home Wife thing down to a T despite the flack and judgement of others and my husband and I are very happy with our life and would not want it any other way. Each week I make myself a schedule to stick to, being without a plan has always made me a little anxious so this schedule really helps in that area. I plan to share this week’s schedule with you guys so you can see what us Stay at Home Wives REALLY do. I’ll start with Monday.

Monday: 

  • 11am: I woke up, showered, got ready for my day, did the dishwasher, and made dinner (we eat dinner before my husband goes to work).
  • 3pm: I drop my husband off at his work (we are currently in 1 car for the time being).
  • 3-7pm: I go out and shop for my husband’s anniversary gifts, drop off a dress I am having fixed,make my husband a tattoo appointment, and go to the grocery.
  • 7-7:30pm: Yoga and Leg workout. 
  • 7:30-8pm: I have a snack and talk to my husband on his lunch break.
  • 8-10: I clean our living space. 
  • 10-11pm: I take a break and eat dinner.
  • 11pm-midnight:  I prep dinner for the following day, make my husband his lunch for the following day at work, general clean up, prepare my husband a snack for when he comes home.
  • Midnight+: I leave to get my husband from work and then we spend a few hours of time together before heading to bed.

Tuesday: 

  • 11am-3pm: Wake up, fix dinner, dishwasher, eat with my husband.
  • 3-5: Cardio, Arm Work out, Back Work out, Yoga. 
  • 5-6pm: Shower, make a smoothie, talk to my husband, get laundry in. 
  • 6-7:30: Write my blog post.
  • 7:30-8pm: Talk to my husband on his break, continue with more laundry. 
  • 8-10pm: Clean out basement. 
  • 10-11pm: Eat dinner, keep working on laundry.
  • 11-Midnight: Prep dinner, my husband’s lunch, dishwasher, general clean up,prepare my husband a snack for when he comes home, and find time to read “How to cook Everything.”
  • Midnight+: Hubby time.

Wednesday:

  • 11am-3pm: Wake up, cook dinner, do the dishwasher, enjoy time with my husband.
  • 3-4pm: Cardio and yoga.
  • 4-6pm: Have a snack, get ready for church, talk to hubby.
  • 6-9pm: commute to church, church, stop by store for stock ups, commute home.
  • 9-10:30pm: finish putting away laundry that had to air dry, do the dishwasher, general clean up.
  • 10:30-Midnight: Eat dinner, prep for dinner the next day, make hubby’s lunch, general clean up, dishwasher, prepare my husband a snack for when he comes home.

Thursday: 

  • 11am-3pm: Wake up, do the dishwasher, make dinner, hubby time.
  • 3-5pm: Cardio, arm work out, yoga.
  • 5-6pm: Shower and have a snack. 
  • 6-7:30pm: I spend time time reading and learning about cooking skills, practice french, read about editing my novel in a few weeks.
  • 7:30-8:30pm: Talk to hubby, look at our bills that need to be paid the following week and organize what money will go into savings. 
  • 8:30-10: Meal plan for the following week, look at our kitchen and do inventory, and create our grocery list. 
  • 10-11pm: Meal prep for the following day, hubby’s lunch, general clean up.
  • 11pm-Midnight: Prepare my husband a snack for when he comes home, and if I have time leftover I will turn on the TV.
  • Midnight+: Hubby time.

Friday: 

  • 11am-3pm: Wake up, shower, get ready for the day, make dinner, hubby time. 
  • 3-6pm: Take hubby to workI get my allergy shot and then volunteer at my church’s after school program.
  • 6-10pm: Grocery Shopping, errands, more anniversary shopping, going to see my friend to learn how to make a tres leches cake for my husband since he loved the one she made at her daughter’s birthday party.
  • 10pm-11pm: Unload groceries and organize pantry and cabinets, dishwasher, general clean up.
  • 11pm+: Leave to go get my husband fast food (friday treat)go get my hubby at work.

Saturday & Sunday: this weekend we are celebrating our 1 year anniversary! 🙂 On the weekend’s I make breakfast/brunch and dinner and do my usual cleaning. 

Notes:

*On Wednesday’s I have been taking him to work but my mom is on vacation this week and is taking us to church in her car.

*My husband usually works from 3-11:34pm but this week he is scheduled over time Monday-Thursday, so often I am still doing some things even after he is home.

My days stay busy but I would not have them any other way. Sometimes my tasks run over into my other task times. I just wanted to bring light to the world that Stay at Home Wive’s actually live in. Many of us don’t sit and watch TV everyday, every hour. We take our jobs seriously and do our very best to make the home lives for our hard working husbands the best they can be. Stay at Home Wive’s are women of devotion, love, and repetitive work. We realize we are blessed to be able to spend our time focusing on our families and we certainly don’t take it for granted. We are thankful and strive to do our job the best we can, just like everyone else.

5 Prayers to say everyday for your Husband

My days have been filled with snow cream, naps, and snuggles all week. It’s day 4 of being snowed. On Monday we got 14 inches of snow, which is very rare nowadays. We get a snow like this like once every 10 years. While it was awesome to see such a snow fall and be snowed in with my hubby for 4 whole days (6 day weekend!), it is a little stressful when you can’t get out of the drive way and make it to work. We are on one income, which is a blessing to be able to afford but when my husband can’t get to his job, it makes the budget a little bit tighter. Thankfully his boss let him use 1 vacation day and I have master budgeting skills to make it work. Don’t ask why in the world his work didn’t shut down when the rest of the county did, because I still haven’t been able to fathom it myself just yet.

IMG_0015

I’m super thankful that regardless of all the snow, that me and my family and friends have kept power. I prayed and prayed for God to keep everyone’s power on because saying it’s cold here would be an understatement. We had record breaking cold temps here today, which is why my husband was snowed in for a 4th day. The roads seem to be cleared out but a nice layer of ice has formed on the snow that began to melt yesterday. So all our tires could do is spin and spin and spin this morning. Here’s hoping all of the winter snow came at once and we won’t have to deal with any more large amounts of snow for the rest of the year!

Last week I posted 5 things you should pray for your marriage, everyday , and this week I wanted to post a similar piece focused on just your husband. Prayer is powerful and I have seen it work in amazing ways. I think it’s really important to pray for things that others need as well, not just ourselves. After all, I’m sure prayers from others has helped you out in one way or another at some point. When it comes to praying for your husband, keep the prayers selfless. Instead of praying for him to just do the dishes or help you around the house more, pray for his own well being. What loving wife wants her husband to be less than happy? Not any of them that I know. There are a ton of prayers we could pray over our husband but there 5 I think are especially important to be blessed with every single day of the year.

Safety. In a world full of hazard’s left and right, it’s never a bad thing to pray for your husbands safety. Especially when they work in environment where injuries can occur easily if they aren’t careful (like my husband). He has came home with burns and bruises quite a few times. Instead of whimpering over them, I pray that he be more careful and that God protects him from major harm. Growing up my Dad almost got his finger cut off by a machine and my Papaw has had a few spider bites from Brown Recluses from his job that ended up requiring surgery and he almost lost his entire hand. I’m thankful none of these things have happened to my husband but you never know what will happen. So say a prayer for God to look out for your husband and protect him from harm each and every day. I know there have been many times where I should have been badly hurt but by the grace of God ended up dodging it.

Spiritual Guidance. God guiding my spirit has been such a relief and life changing thing for me. God always knows what’s best for us and being able to trust in God to lead us down all the right paths gives comfort on a whole other level. I’m so glad that most days I am able to remind myself while I’m in the middle of a mini panic-attack that God has my back and that I shouldn’t sweat it because God will work it out. It calms me down almost every time (I’m trying to get better at it). I pray for my husband to be able to trust in God and follow him in each moment of his life. I pray that he can turn to God in his moments of weakness and seek guidance on what to do and receive comfort. I want my husband to be able to experience the wonders of God, just like I can.

Fulfillment. It’s so easy to want, want, want, isn’t it? It can be so easy to get wrapped up in the mind set that “I don’t have enough”. I pray every day that my husband can be fulfilled in the moment for the life he has been given. I pray God gives him fulfillment so he isn’t always feeling like he wants more and more and more. Sure, there are things we can and should try and reach for to better our circumstances. But many of us are pretty blessed to say the least. When we have the feeling of wanting more, we feel less than happy. I don’t want my husband to ever feel like he doesn’t have enough. Instead I want him to be grateful for the blessings he does have.

Laughter. What is life without laughter? My husband makes me laugh everyday and even if I am stressed out, the moments I spend laughing with him is a moment I am spending lighting up and enjoying life. I pray everyday that my husband can always have a sense of humor and will always be able to laugh at some point in his day. Even if it’s just for a second. Laughter is a little vacation from the stress in your mind. Laughter is present in some of life’s most precious moments. I pray that his life is full of laughter (so far, so good, he laughs at almost anything) so he can always look back and remember those moments in his life instead of the less than funny ones.

Happiness. Of course, this is an obvious one, but the most important. I pray that my husband is always happy. I pray for that every single day. I don’t expect him to be happy in every little moment, we all have those strained, stressed out moments in life. But I pray for him to be over all happy when he looks at the big picture. I pray for him to know what will bring him happiness and to embrace it always. No one needs a life that is full of unhappiness. So I pray that he is over all happy with most aspects of his life and when the unhappy ones come, he can surround himself with the things that do make him happy. Happiness is everyone’s ultimate goal and I pray my husband has it, every single day.

I spend a decent time in prayer everyday. I usually pray before bed, a little when I wake up, and when I shower, sometimes when I drive. You can never pray enough and no prayer is insignificant. Each one is heard and answered in some sort of way. Remember to pray for your marriage and your husband when you are thanking God and praying for some relief from the cold weather. It will change his life.

Praying for your and yours! Stay warm.

What are some prayers you pray for your husband everyday?

5 things you should Pray for your Marriage, everyday.

I’m no newbie when it comes to prayer. I have been praying everyday since I was a small child. I grew up in and out of church and recently just got back into it. Regardless of when and when I did not attend church, I have always prayed and had my faith. I believe prayer is powerful in so many ways. I have had mine answered over and over again, sometimes in ways that I didn’t even pray for. When it comes to Marriage, there is a reason a few prayers are said when you say your vows. It’s because it’s so vital to keeping your marriage at it’s best. Here are 5 very important things you should pray for your marriage each day.

  1. Pray for God to be wrapped up in your marriage. In the middle, above, below, all around, and in every single single inch of your marriage. When you place your Marriage into God’s hands, it is in the safest place it can ever be. With God guiding your Marriage, it will go to beautiful places. Yes, you will still have fights and the occasional tough time, but those are all for a reason. Be it to appreciate each other more or to realize just how important something may be. Trust God to take your Marriage to all of the right places.
  2. Pray to be the best spouse you can be. In today’s busy world, I see couples time and time again neglecting their spouse and their needs. Pray everyday for God to help you be the greatest Spouse you can be for your husband. We should always strive to be the best we can be so we can give our spouse the best of us. We expect the same from our husbands so we need to be able to do the same for them. We can’t always be perfect but giving it our best is important. We need to be able to be there for our spouses in all ways we possibly can. By praying for God to help us with this, he can help eliminate distractions that keep you from giving your Spouse the best.
  3. Pray for God to help the both of you to communicate with each other. I’m sure I have mentioned it before, but communication is one of the strongest, if not the strongest, piece in any marriage. Without communication, you can grow apart for your spouse, damaging the closeness you have. When you don’t communicate, wants and needs go unanswered and your happiness is effected. When you don’t communicate, you are damaging the bond the two of you share. You should always be able to tell your spouse anything and everything. This is one of the reasons having a person to spend the rest of your life with is so wonderful, you are never alone. If you are having trouble communicating in your marriage, pray for God to help you and your spouse learn how to do it effectively. This helps build trust, the other most important thing for a Marriage!
  4. Pray for God to fill your Marriage with respect. When you respect your spouse and your Marriage, you are going to treat them/it better. When you don’t have respect, you feel less obligated to care for your Marriage. When you respect your Spouse, you are even more in love with them and you are more likely to take your spouse seriously. Respect is a powerful force that can make or break your feelings for someone. Pray to God to help/sustain respect in your Marriage.
  5. Pray for God to help your Marriage go the distance. Divorce is running rampant these days. People are divorcing left and right, and it’s sad. Some people cripple under stressful times in their marriage, believing that starting over with someone else would be easier. God did not create divorce and doesn’t like it when a Marriage falls a part. So pray for God to protect your marriage from divorce and to help the two of you be strong when things get shakey.

There are many more things to pray for your marriage. You can never pray enough for your precious bond with your husband. Along with your Marriage, be sure and pray for your husband. Check back next week to see 5 ways to Pray for your Husband! I’m praying that all Marriages be filled with happiness and comfort today! Keep praying!

What are some things you pray for your Marriage?

How to make a Goal Plan: a plan designed to help you reach ANY goal.

IMG_1065Through out life, we have all had many goals. Some of us, well to be honest- most of us, have probably failed at at least one of those goals a time or two. If not, YOU GO! I admire your dedication. But, back to the 90% of us. It’s so easy to dream, it’s so easy to point out the things in our lives and how we want to change them, and it’s also so easy to move on to a new goal or dream or put the goal on the back burner. Things just happen that end up keeping us from them. Sometimes they are things that legitimately get in the way, like breaking your ankle as you train for a marathon but most of the time, we end up making excuses and slap the word “reason” on it as we try to convince ourselves that the “reason” is totally a block and that we will get to it whenever we can. I have done this my entire life. Always wanting to do something, but always failing at it for some reason excuse.

I stopped doing that last year and it has changed my life in so many ways. I have reached goals that I had been wanting to for 10 years or longer. It feels amazing and I am so proud of myself for reaching them. What helped me reach them was having a Goal Plan and one of the most important things we as humans can probably learn, discipline. 

Believe it or not, you are already pretty disciplined. Think about it, you go to work each day when you really don’t want to. Now, you’re probably saying, “I only do that because I have to not because I’m disciplined.” And that is where you are wrong. Yes, you do partake in things because you have to, but that in itself is a big part of discipline, having a reason, realizing it, and following through. If you didn’t have any kind of discipline, you would probably just stay in bed in the mornings and let your utilities get shut off, but I’m betting you don’t.

In a Goal Plan we use discipline. The two are like Peanut Butter and Jelly. They compliment each other perfectly and if you leave one of them out, it just isn’t the same. So get out a piece of paper (or print out the handout below), something to write with, and let’s make you your own Goal Plan so you can start reaching your goals too. If you can’t do it now, just bookmark this post and come back to it later. I promise, this is something you are going to want to do. It changed my life and I know it will change yours.

  1. So, first things first. We need to state your goal. For the sake of this article, I’m going to use my own personal goal so you can see examples. This one is really simple, just state your goal.     Goal: 

    to lose 50 pounds.

  2. The second step is to figure out the reason, WHY, you want to reach this goal. This could be any reason, try to be as specific and as honest as possible. This will help you stay clear about why you’re doing this and it will keep you motivated.                                                                         Reason: 

    I want to live a longer life and feel better about myself.

  3. Next you need to justify why the reason for your goal is important. This can also be for many reasons, to make yourself happy, to better the world, to strengthen your marriage. You need a reason for your reason. This will help you to drive your reasons home and make you realize how important they really are to you.                                                                             Why is this important?

    If I died young, I would be missing out on a life full of joy and would be leaving those who loved me behind. Plus, confidence is a major factor in happiness. Who wants to live a less than happy life?

  4. Now we need to establish what happens if you fail at your goal. Will you be less than happy, will your marriage have unmet needs, will your health suffer? When you realize what is at stake, you realize how much you will lose by ditching your goal. List as many as you can think of.         What if I fail? 

    I could die earlier than I should have due to heart disease or something like that, I could develop diabetes, I won’t have as much confidence as I would like and thus putting a damper on the life I do live, pain for my loved ones, my children may follow my foot steps of bad eating habits. (*note: I think everyone should feel confident in whatever body they have and love, I personally would just feel more confident in mine if I were healthier.)

  5. What do you need to do to reach this goal? This is one of the most important steps to a Goal Plan. If you don’t realize the steps you need to take, how will you get there? If you don’t know, take some time to think about it, do some research, or ask someone.                         How will I reach my goal?

    I will eat proper portion sizes, I will exercise at least 4 days a week, I will do yoga, I will add in more fruits and veggies to my diet.

  6. This is the final step and the one to spend the most time on. You need to ask yourself what kind of obstacles you may face and how to get by them. When it comes to failing at goals, it’s often because something pops up and we end up caving or getting weak. Addressing the issues ahead of time will help you to be prepared when they come so you don’t end up making the wrong choice and going back on your goal.                                                                             What kind of obstacles will I face? How will I tackle them?

    I REALLY want a cookie: I will eat 1 cookie, not 3.

    I am too tired to work out: I power through it and gain natural energy from the work out.

    My mom wants to go out to dinner: I will control how much I eat and leave behind the leftovers.

    I had a bad day: Exercise releases endorphin’s do your brain, thus making you happy. And will dodging your goal make you feel better?

    I haven’t lost any weight yet: I will keep trying.

 

And there we have it. A simple, 6 step goal plan that will help you stay focused on what you want to accomplish and actually get you there. Often when we fail at our goals, it’s because we lack something that this goal plan addresses. Feel free to print my copy out here and just fill it out on your own. Carry it around with you, make a copy for your fridge, put it on your desk. Whatever helps you remember your goal and why it’s important, do it. Thanks to this goal plan, I have finally been losing the weight I have wanted to for so long, I am almost finished writing my first novel, and I am saving for my first home with my husband. No goal is too big or too small to use the plan for and I recommend filling it out for each one of your goals and any new goals you may come across.

Good luck to you and your goals and be sure and check back in and let me know how your goal reaching is doing!

Download the printable Goal Plan here!   Goal Plan

Why you should ditch that Diet.

Ditch that Diet

Last year, around this time, it was 4 months until my Wedding and at my heaviest weight. I had planned on being at least at the weight I was at when I met my husband but no, I was at my heaviest. I believe everyone is beautiful, no matter how big or small, or what shape they are. I also believe in doing what makes yourself feel better. I was over weight. I didn’t like that about myself. Back then I hated it because of vain reasons…I didn’t think my chubby arms looked pretty in a sleeveless dress, my extra round face would look better if it were much more slender, I would look so much prettier in my pictures if I were 30 pounds lighter, you get the idea. So I told myself I was going to hardcore diet and exercise. I was going to shed 30 pounds in the next 2 months before my dress fitting. I could and would do it.

Fast Forward to my wedding day, I still weighed the same as I did when I told myself I was going to shed those 30 pounds. That weight loss did not happen. I wasn’t sure why at the time I just knew that I didn’t reach my goal. I got married in May and in July I changed my life.

As I type this, I am 25 pounds lighter than I was this time last year. Not because I found some miracle diet, not because I started taking diet pills, not because I started starving myself, but because I simply started caring about myself.

As you guys may have read in a previous post of mine, I went through a hormonal shock when I began a new hormonal birth control. When this happened to me, I really began to pay attention (FINALLY) to my health. When I went through that shock, I began to realize that if I didn’t treat my body good, my body was not going to treat me good. I wanted a happy, healthy, long life.

Thanks to those changes I am 25 pounds down, I am still losing, and I am happy. I’m not miserable or cranky, I’m not looking at pictures of yummy food and crying, I am doing wonderful. When people ask me about my diet, I am happy to tell them that I’m not on any sort of diet. I’m simply just taking better care of myself and then I go into explaining how I have lost 25 pounds, how I am still losing weight, and how I’m not having to diet or take any sort of supplement or pill. I know this totally sounds like I am about to go into a big spill about some kind of expensive food plan to buy, or some kind of miracle natural tea, but I promise, what I’m about to share with you has nothing to do with anything you need to buy and no company what so ever. It’s simply how I made some changes to better my life, and the results that I got.

So sit back, and get ready to change your life! You know, only if you want to 🙂

1.) Health (the right reason)- Health is the reason I actually lost weight this time. It should be the reason you want to lose weight. Losing weight for the right reason makes all of the difference. Losing weight to look good in pictures, losing weight to wear a dress you like, losing weight just because you think you are supposed to be skinny, those are all of the wrong reasons and unless you are doing it to truly better yourself, you are more set up to fail. You are much more likely to say “It’s just a dress. This brownie is much better than that dress” and you are more likely to
subconsciously care a lot less about it than you would if you were truly doing it to better your life. So make the right choice. Do this for the right reasons. You are beautiful no matter what number the scale says, but when it comes to health, your weight truly can matter there.

2.) Portion Control- Portion Control has been the BIGGEST change I have made. It was also the hardest. Now that I am eating healthy portions, I look back and don’t know how I was consuming so much. We eat so much more than we realize. When I looked at what a good serving size was, I was astonished because I usually ate double or triple of what was suggested. Guys, I promise, you don’t need 2 cups full of mashed potatoes. The right size serving WILL get you full. Portion Control comes down to two things, Mental Power and Actually Doing It. We get our idea of what a portions look like from our family or just what we have been doing for so long. So when it come’s to portion controlling, you have to change your ideas of what a portion size looks like. So many of us confuse hunger with just the sensation of wanting the food itself. Know the difference between hunger and just wanting to taste the yummy food some more. Deep down, you know the difference. Half of the time you just don’t think about it and know you want more so you just go get more.You need to take out the suggested serving, and let that be that. After you eat it, tell yourself “I’m not hungry”, I just want more. I have had enough.”  Then get up and go do something. If you still feel actual hunger, drink a glass of water and then wait 20 minutes. If you still feel hungry, eat a healthy snack like an apple. Don’t go back for more mashed potatoes. This is the Mental part of it. Know the difference, know when your full, and know what the right serving size is. The next thing, the hardest part, is just doing it. Just do it. Think of why you are doing this. You want to be healthy and live long. They say if you can do something for 28 days, you have made it through the hardest part and it is now a habit. So make portion control a habit, after 28 days I can promise you, you will be getting fuller much faster and eating the same amount that you used to will seem close to impossible.

3.) Exercise- Yes. I know. Exercise. Wah. But seriously, exercise will benefit you all over. From your mental health to your psychical health, exercise effects all aspects of our bodies. Exercising can even help anxiety and depression. It makes all of the difference in the world to exercise. If you don’t exercise, you are putting your body in a bad place. You are depriving something awesome from it. Exercising helps and keeps you losing weight, beyond just portion control. It is the most important decision you can make when it comes to your health. Remember what I said about the 28 day rule? It applies here too. If you can stick to a work out routine for 28 days, it won’t be so taunting. It’ll just be part of your day. What helped me in the beginning to stick to it, to get on that treadmill when I really just wanted to nap, was not giving myself a choice. Seriously I just didn’t even let myself think about it. I got up as soon as my husband went to work, put on my clothes, and hopped on. I did it every day. I didn’t ponder on when I should work out, or if I should, or what I should do. I did the same thing, at the same time, everyday. So make it just a part of your schedule as much as you do brushing your teeth. Tell yourself, when I get home everyday I am going to get on the treadmill as soon as I get home. Don’t sit down and get comfy, just do it. Eventually it’ll just stick. It won’t be so hard, it’ll be normal. If you find yourself too busy after work, get up earlier and do it before work. It is proven that exercise actually gives you energy. So a good morning work out before work would be an awesome way to start your day. Also distract yourself and do something enjoyable when you work out. When I was on the treadmill, I would watch a certain TV show that I really loved that I only allowed myself to watch when I was on the treadmill. So it kept me distracted from my workout and the way I felt and I looked forward to it everyday because I knew I got to watch my show. Whatever works for you and gets you going, do it. There are no excuses. You don’t need a machine to work out. You can do it all at home without anything. Just get moving! 🙂

4.) Rewards- The biggest question I get when I talk about losing weight is “Don’t you miss dessert? Burgers?” Nope. I don’t. Because I still have them. When I want a burger, see point 2.) Portion control. You can still have burgers! You can still have dessert- I do every night. Just don’t go crazy. If you have a sweet tooth like I do, then you know how strong the force can be. Just don’t go over board. Eat 3 Oreos, not 8. Get yourself a plate out, dish out the right portion, and put the thing of cookies up. The thing is, when we deprive ourselves, we end up giving up because of how aggravating it is. We say “I shouldn’t have to live my entire life without another brownie!”  and if you don’t have diabetes or an allergy, you are absolutely right. You shouldn’t and don’t have to. You can lose weight and still eat what you want! Eat the right size brownie. If the box says it makes 16 and you only end up with 8, you are cutting them way too big. Always make sure you are dishing out the right portions. Now, this is about health. So I’m not saying eat every single meal as greasy and as bad as you want. You need to add veggies and fruits into your diet, when you can make a healthier choice- like chicken instead of beef, you should. You should always aim to eat healthy most of your meals, most days. But if you want a burger, eat a burger. Just eat the right size. Don’t ever deprive yourself or go without your favorite foods. Don’t ever beat yourself up or make yourself feel bad for eating what you really want. You can and will lose weight just by portion control. Portion control is wonderful for your health. Just try and be a healthier person over all and get your fruits and veggies and watch the red meat intake. Keep it well rounded. Look for healthier versions of what you like, pinterest yummy healthy dinners, just don’t say no to a night of appetizers and ice cream with your girlfriends because your being healthy. Depriving will just lead into giving up. And we all deserve a brownie from time to time. For us, I cook healthy dinners most days of the week and then at night we have a dessert that isn’t healthy. When you go on strict diets, when you stop them, you will gain all the weight back and then some, and it’ll come fast and easy. Your body gets used to certain foods, like low carbs or low fat and then you eat a sandwhich or something and then BAM there it comes. When you change your lifestyle and still eat what you like, your body is already used to those foods so it isn’t going to go into a little shock and start packing on the pounds.

Diets aren’t lifestyles, they aren’t to make you healthy. They are to make you lose weight. That is their only purpose. They aren’t concentrated on health. They are concentrated on shedding pounds. By portion control, exercise, and healthy additions for a healthy lifestyle you will get just that, a healthy lifestyle. It’s not a diet. It’s about living better and being healthier but also being happy and balanced. I eat a lot more veggies but I also let myself have dessert. I make Quiona Enchilada Casserole instead of Beef filled Enchiladas but if I really wanted just a regular Enchilada I would have one. I want my body to be happy and healthy so I exercise Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday. I don’t want to take up time with my husband so I take the weekend’s off. It’s all about balance and ADDING in Healthy things, instead of taking them away.

This diet worked for me and tons of other’s. When you allow yourself to portion control, exercise, still eat what you want, and do it for the right reason, you will lose the weight, you won’t feel like it’s a chore, and you will be happier and healthier. You won’t feel like a slave to something you hate. And the best part? You will keep it off. You will be better for it.

What do you guys do to help your weight loss? Do any of you benefit from any of these? Comment below your experiences! I love to hear from you guys!