Social Media: Wife Etiquette Part 1

A few weeks ago I went on a Social Media Fast. When it comes to fasting, you are supposed to fast something that isn’t easy for you to give up. Automatically I knew what I would be choosing, Social Media.

Most of us have some sort of Social Media Account, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, the list goes on and on. It’s almost as if Social Media makes the world go ’round. Think about how much time you spend between all of your social media accounts. You probably under estimate how much time you really do spend on it through out the day. If you piled up all the minutes you spend looking through your feeds, it would add up to be more than an hour for the average person, I would guess it would be around the 2 hour mark. Now, this isn’t for every person that owns a social media account. Some only check it once a day, maybe even once a week, or even less. But on average the amount spent on your social media is quite a bit and you probably don’t even realize how addicted you may be to it. Try Fasting it like I did and you’d be surprised how many times you catch yourself going to open the app, without even thinking about it. This was such a habit for me, I deleted my apps until my fast was over.

My post today isn’t a lecture about getting rid of your social media accounts. Let’s be honest, we aren’t just going to go out and delete everything. If you use Social Media maturely it is actually a good thing. I have far away family that I literally hardly ever see and it’s nice to be able to keep up with them as well as seeing pictures of my friends kids I don’t see often and personally, I like to share my own accomplishment’s too (if you checked out my personal feeds, you would mostly see pictures of my food adventures). At this point in life it’s the norm to have a Facebook and other outlets and there is no reason in shaming ourselves for participating. My main idea for this post is using Social Media maturely as a wife. In the world where Social Media is a common practice and it’s only a click away, it is often used in negative ways. A lot of these negative ways can reflect on your marriage and the kind of spouse you aim to be. So let’s take a look at some basic Wife Etiquette rules of Social Media.

Social Media CAN be a good thing. When it was created, it was meant in all good intentions. It was a way to keep in touch with those you love and have them keep up with you. So let’s start with “The Do’s” of Social Media.

The Do’s:

Write on your hubby’s wall: When you write on someone’s wall, it’s public for everyone to see. We as women know how good it feels when our husband’s show us a little affection in front of the guys or our gal pals. Do the same for him. Write a little “I love you so much! Thank you for being so good to me :) ” or something a long those lines, and give him some public praise!

Brag a Little: This kind of bounces back to the public praise idea. If he sent you some flowers on a bad day, don’t feel bad to snap a photo and share it. Social Media is about sharing after all. Tag him and say a sweet line about how thankful you are for them, or create a small status saying that you are thankful for a hard working husband. Something a long the lines of that. It’s public praise that all of your family and friends can see and it will make him feel even more appreciated. But notice I said a little. You can declare your love everyday on Facebook if you feel the need to but remember your friends, families, and followers are there to hear more than just about your love, so make sure to have a good balance.

Post Photos of you together: Your followers want to keep up with what you’re doing in life, take a snapshot when the two of you just had an amazing adventure. Not only will you have the memory in a photo and not only are your friends and family enjoying keeping up with the two of you (parents loveeee photos) but your hubby can feel that you are extra proud of the two of you.

Accept requests from his friends and family: Letting his friends and family into your Social Media lets him know that you care about how they are doing, and not just about your own group. When you marry, you inherit his friends and family too. Be sure and stay active with them when you can, it really shows him that you care about them being involved in your life together. You don’t have to like his ex-roomate’s status about enjoying a cold one, but it doesn’t hurt to throw a like or a comment or two on some fun or meaningful things.

There’s part 1 of The Do’s. Take all these tips as added bonus ways to show your love and appreciation for your spouse, don’t make Social Media the only way you show him these things. Always say thank you in person and make sure you vocalize your appreciation for them often.

Now, on to the negative thing’s that we as Wives (and just people in general) will want to avoid. Here are..

The Don’ts:

Talk about him in a negative way: Never put your significant other down in anyway on Social Media. There are no exceptions to this. Don’t talk bad about them, don’t make vague statues about how mad you are because SOMEONE forgot to take the dog out, and don’t share photo’s that point to you being angry or upset with your spouse. You would hate it if he did it, so don’t do it. You should respect your spouse and pointing out their flaws is not the way to do it. It also does not reflect well on yourself. If you are throwing your spouse under the bus in public, it only comes off as if you are a disrespectful spouse and then everyone who just read your public display of anger, will learn to disrespect you. Just don’t do it.

Don’t vent your marriage woe’s to the world: It can be so easy to open up your account and go on a venting session about your feelings. It can give you an automatic response to your feelings and some people feel supported when their aunt they hadn’t seen in 10 years rallies with them to support their frustration with their marriage. This is a giant no-no though. Not only does it embarrass your spouse but later on when the two of you have made up, your family and friends won’t be there to witness the makeup session and will often grow to dislike your spouse or lose respect for them. The main reason this is a mistake is because marriage is between 2 people. Not the 2 people and their family and friends. Your family and friends did not make vows to you, your husband did. Only the two of you can solve your problems, so outsider views on the issue doesn’t matter at the end of the day. Instead of venting your anger and causing all kinds of negative response, talk to your spouse, work it out, be happy. Once something is online and someone else sees it, that is something you cannot take back.

Don’t post anything truly embarrassing: I don’t mean cute baby photos (unless he is really serious about that), I mean something super embarrassing that you wouldn’t want shared. Marriage gives you the comfort to be yourself and gives you someone else to trust with everything. Even embarrassing moments. We are there to lift up our spouses, not bring them down.

Don’t spend excessive amounts of time online: Between jobs, errands, and family functions, time with your spouse is precious. Life is so busy that it can be easy to come home from work and unwind while scrolling through your feeds and there is nothing wrong with that, if you are spending a ton more time one on one with your spouse with no distractions. Make sure to put it away at dinner, during conversations, and activities. You live with your spouse so of course you will be looking while in their company, but make sure it is a small amount of time compared to the time you are spending with them without the phone.

Don’t share everything: Some of my most treasured moments are times that no one else knows about except me and my husband. I keep a journal of them to look back on from time to time (I highly suggest it). Anytime he does something nice, you don’t always have to share it. Social Media has taken away the idea of having private moments because so many of us share everything that happens to us. Try not sharing everything, sometimes it becomes even sweeter.

Wives, take these do’s and dont’s into some serious consideration. Especially the don’ts. Marriage is precious and sacred and something we need to take care of. In a world where Social Media dominates, don’t let it dominate your marriage.

Respect your Husband. Respect yourself. Respect your Marriage. 

What advice do you have for wives on social media? Be sure and comment and join in on the conversation, and be sure and share this with other wives. It’s something we can all benefit from!

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3 easy meals, 2 Delicious Dinners, at the price of 1.

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Yes. It’s true. You can make delicious meals at an affordable price. The average meal cooked at home will average around $15-$20 a meal and they barely stretch far enough to feed your entire family for dinner.

Over the years of cooking homemade meals I learned very early on that food has gotten super expensive, especially healthy food. The average person will spend $200 at the grocery store weekly, or $600-$800 monthly. No wonder people are flocking to Ramen Noodles and Pizza Rolls. It’s cheap and goes a long way. In turn, our health is suffering and as of now, 1 in every 3 Americans are obese. Some may wonder why, but most of us already know. Healthy Food is simply too expensive and many of us can’t afford to expand our grocery budget even further.

Me and Mr.B have really gotten the urge to eat healthier, but our food budget is already more than we are comfortable with, which is something many wives can relate to. I wasn’t going to just give up and run back to my unhealthy foods, instead I got creative and came up with two healthy meals, that were cost effective, and went a long way.

A big tip in purchasing healthy foods without breaking the bank is to buy items that you can use more than once. Which is what my two meals are really focused on. Not only are they healthy but I fed my family 3 meals, between 2 dinners, at the cost of 1.

Just because you cut costs, doesn’t mean you cut quality either. My family gobbled these meals up, and were left wanting even more. So let’s take a look at the shopping list:

  • 1 Beef of Roast 
  • 1 large bag of Baby Carrots
  • 1 Small Can of Beef Broth
  • 1 5lb bag of Potatoes (you’re favorite will work just fine)
  • 1 48oz Can of Tomato Juice
  • 1 bag of Frozen Green Beans
  • 1 Bag of Frozen Corn
  • Basil Leaves or Basil the Spice Isle

*I shopped at Kroger, your local grocery store may vary in slightly prices.

So on to Meal #1: Roast

The first meal I made was a classic pot roast full of flavor. It’s amazingly easy to make (can we say slow cooker?!) and it’s DELICIOUS. It is sure to specially please the meat and potato lover (like my hubby). Go ahead and slice up about 5-6 potatoes.

So first thing’s first: Empty your can of Beef Broth into the bottom of your slow cooker, like so…

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Next drop your Roast into the broth and cover with salt and pepper to taste (I also added in some seasoned salt I had in the pantry, but this is optional.)

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then add a layer of potatoes right on top and cover with some salt (regular or seasoned)

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and then do the same with your carrots

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Keep Layering Potatoes and Carrots until you run out (use your whole bag of carrots).

After the layering is done, fill your pot up with water until everything is nice and covered.

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Cover and cook on low for 8 hours (cooking times may vary with each slow cooker.)

All that’s left is to enjoy :)

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That’s it for the first meal! It took hardly any prep time and it filled our bellies up, all while getting our veggie servings.

Pour your roast into an air tight bowl for safe keeping in the fridge over night for meal #2.

Meal #2: Veggie Soup!

Meal #2 also requires very minimal work and this one cooks in a lot less time.

What you will want to do first is drain the water from the roast and get it ready for this yummy Veggie Soup!

As you are letting it drain, let your tomato juice and about 5 tablespoons of basil (or 3 leaves) come to a simmer on medium high heat.

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Once it reaches a simmer, add in your green beans and corn (thawed).

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While it’s simmering, cut up your meat and veggies from the roast into bite sized pieces. Then throw them into the soup along with some salt and pepper for taste.

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Allow it to simmer for at least 30 minutes, then scoop out a giant bowl full to cool a few minutes before serving.

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This soup lasted for dinner AND for lunch the next day for my family. It is delicious and loaded with veggies. It is pleasing in all aspects and I see myself making it again in the near future, especially as fall weather approaches!

And there we have it. 3 meals, 2 dinners, all for the cost of 1. These recipes show that you can create delicious dinners without breaking the bank. It’s always a win when you can please your family and please your budget.

Share these recipes along with others who would enjoy this. I know so many people that struggle to create healthy meals for their family at an affordable cost. These recipes allow you to do both and keep your tummy happy.

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Sneak Peak: 2 in 1 dinner!

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I cannot wait to share this amazing dinner menu with you. Not only will your husband die for it, but it’s easy on your budget and will feed you for days!

Reader Requests: What do you want to see?

The things I write about come from many different places. Sometimes I’m dying for chocolate and want to create a new brownie recipe, sometimes I’m asked for marriage advice, sometimes I go through something personally. Whatever sparks my ideas, I want to share it with you guys, fellow wives along the journey of marriage that often have some of the same obstacles ranging from a picky eater husband to a stressed out husband (see my post about Stressed Out Husband’s here ).

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Easy to do Beef Stew

I’m a little too anxious for Fall to get here. The background on my phone is a bunch of orange and red leaves, I’m dying to get to Starbucks to get the early released Pumpkin Spice latte, and I’ve been dreaming about the fall weather. Today I even ditched my cute pink and white purse for my Deep Brown Michael Kors Purse, which is fall appropriate and I’ve already been painting my nails darker colors and my Pinterest is covered in fall decore ideas (I have a board dedicated just to Fall). Basically, I am DYING for fall to get here. It is certainly my favorite time of year and I am constantly in a good mood when the crisp Fall air arrives. So Beef Stew sounded like the perfect thing to make for dinner. It screams fall. So off to the kitchen I went. Once I posted the photograph below to my Facebook of my scrumptious dinner, the comments flooded in, some asking for the recipe, some telling me just how yummy it looks. So sharing of the recipe was in immediate order. 

Beef Stew

It does taste as good as it looks. What I love besides the incredible taste (my mom told me today it was better than her beef stew!) is how quick the prep time is. I spend so much time in the kitchen since I love cooking so much, but some days I feel like I’m missing out on family time. So slow cooker recipes are great to have on hand for those days where you just feel like relaxing and you have SO much leftover you can eat on it for two days, so for the busy wife, this is a wonderful go to recipe. 

The ingredient’s are common and you probably have most of it in your pantry already. 

Ingredients

  • Stewing Beef (1.5-2 pounds). You can find it at any grocery store all cut up and ready to go for you.
  • A bag of Frozen Peas
  • 1/2 of a large onion
  • 2 celery ribs
  • 3 cups of baby carrots 
  • 3 cups of Beef Broth
  • 1/2 cup of All Purpose Flour
  • 1 tablespoon of Vegetable Oil
  • 28oz of tomato juice 
  • 10 large potatoes 
  • 1.5 teaspoons of Italian seasoning (you can buy this in your spice isle in a shaker or a packet)
  • 3 Bay Leaves (I found it in the Mexican Food Isle at Kroger, your grocery store may have it with the vegetables or spice isle)
  • 1/2 teaspoon of salt
  • 1/2 teaspoon of pepper

 

  1. Pour your tomato juice into the bottom of your slow cooker.
  2. Cut your Potatoes into 4 pieces, slice your carrots and celery, and cut your onions into large pieces. Put all of it into your crock pot and cover the veggies with the Italian seasoning and the salt and pepper.
  3. Coat your pan with oil and brown your stewing beef until it is almost done, with a slotted spoon scoop the beef into your pot.
  4. Pour 2.5 Cups of the Beef Broth over your veggies and beef and give everything a good stir.
  5. Place the Bay Leaves on top of your stew being sure you can pull them out when the stew is done.
  6. Cover and Cook on low for 7-8 hours (cooking times may vary with each and every pot).
  7. About 30 minutes before your stew is done remove the Bay leaves and stir in your peas.
  8. Whisk your flour and 1/2 cup of beef broth together to make a paste in a separate bowl. Then stir it into the stew and let it cook the remaining 30 minutes.

Now you have a delicious stew that will please your entire family. I served it with some Jiffy Corn Muffins to top it off! 

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Happy Eating :)

 

That doesn’t look like a box cake, cake!

When you see all these pretty looking cakes on Pinterest and on TV you think about just how long it must have taken to make and all the work that had to be put into it. 

Now I’m not talking about the 6 tiered wonders because obviously, those took time. But the cute looking bakery style cakes, they can be achieved with little effort in hardly no time. 

When I posted this cake to my Facebook all of my friends were in awe of how pretty it looked. One friend commented that it looked so good and that she wishes she had the time to decorate cakes.

When I told her it came from a box and that it took me no longer than 10 minutes to decorate it, she was floored and went to asking questions. So I thought I would share with you readers how to make a box cake look like a fancy bakery cake, without the time.

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  1. First step, follow the directions on the box and bake into two 8 inch round pans. I used Duncan Hines Red Velvet :)
  2. Let them cool completely. This makes it easier to handle and it keeps your icing from melting.
  3. Take a long knife and trim the top of the cakes off. This takes a rounded top and makes it into a flat top. Keep the tops.
  4. Take your icing, I used Duncan Hines Cream Cheese icing and ice the top of one of the cakes.
  5. Stack the cake with the un-iced top onto the cake with the iced top.
  6. Ice the sides and the top of your now, two layer cake.
  7. Crumble up the tops of the cake to make medium sized crumbs.
  8. Take the crumbs and sprinkle it on top of the cake and pat them onto the sides. Being careful not to pat too hard so you don’t smear your icing.
  9. Put it on a pretty plate, and you’re done :)

 

How easy! and it looks SO pretty, not to mention delicious.

This weekend I am making my first homemade chocolate cake with a peanut butter pie filling. I can’t wait to share that recipe with you :)

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How to help a Stressed Out Husband

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Stress Sucks. You’ve had it, I’ve had it, and guess what, our husbands will have it. Nothing is as disheartening as seeing your normally happy husband be unhappy, edgy, grumpy, and stressed out. It’s so easy to get frustrated when we tell them it’s going to be ok but they continue to be stressed out. Sometimes you may get tired of telling him that it’s going to be fine, because you feel that he is just ignoring you or simply doesn’t believe you. Instead of just ignoring his complaints or his moods, here’s some tips on how to tackle a stressful husband and get him back to the happy man you married.

Doing things (or all) from each of these categories will help your husband feel more at ease and stress free before you know it. You’ll have the smiles back in no time.

Let’s take a look at our first category:

Psychical: here are some things you can psychically do to help turn your husbands frown, upside down.

  • Long Hugs: Something about a truly intimate, loving hug, puts our husbands at ease.They feel safe in our arms which can help chase the stress away.
  • Little Treats: If you’re out at the store, pick him up his favorite candy bar, or a copy of his favorite movie. Something small that you know he will personally enjoy. There’s nothing more exciting than getting a small, unexpected, gift. This is sure to put a smile on his face. We love it when they do it for us, so let’s do it for them.
  • Massages: Stress literally takes a tole on your body. Around my wedding I was so stressed out I developed “stress knots” in my body. I went and got a massage (courtesy of my loving husband) and wah-lah, I had never felt more at ease. Those knots were painful and they aren’t the only thing stress can do to harm your health. So treat your hubby to a massage or better yet, go buy some oils and look up some massage techniques on Pinterest. Dim the lights and get to de-stressing!
  • Public Praise: In the era of social media, take to Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram and give him a shout out. Letting him know just how much you appreciate and love him. This will give him a sense of confidence and let him know that you are proud of him, even though he hasn’t been feeling the best about himself.
  • Give him something to look forward to: You can let him know that morning that you are making his favorite food later, or set up an exciting event you know he will be thrilled about. This gives him something exciting to look forward to and keep his mind on rather than focusing on something stressful. 
  • Be silly: From corny jokes to tickling him. Be silly with him. Laughing is a natural de-stresser that is sure to take his mind from stress to happiness!

Mental/Emotional: these are things that you can do to help him let go of his stress involving the mind and emotions.

  • Pray for him: pray for God to ease his stress. Sometimes God can make changes that we can’t. You should also encourage your husband to pray about his situation.
  • Stay Strong: part of your vows as husband and wife was to be strong when the other is weak. I know he has for you before, now you can for him. As dis-heartening as it is to have a stressed out husband, you joining in on the stress will only make him stress about that. Don’t add to the mix.
  • Point out his good qualities: remind him about the things that make him so great. When you’re stressed you can feel pretty crummy, lift up his confidence. Confidence can make a big difference in any situation. 
  • Point out his Past Accomplishments: if he is stressed about something that has failed or that he’s scared will fail, remind him of the great things he has done in the past. This can help him feel optimistic about the situation. If you’ve done it before, you can do it again.
  • Be on his Team: it can be so easy to explain the other side of the situation. Rather it be why his boss did something or why something happened. This can sometimes rub off the wrong way even if you are just trying to shed some light. So make sure he knows you are on his team, agree with him. Let him know you think it sucks too. Then bring in your thoughts on why something may have happened. Make sure to start the statement off with “Maybe..” so it doesn;t sound so factual, then follow it up with your thoughts. Do this after he knows that you’re on his side and let him know you’re trying to find an unharmful explanation. 
  • Be considerate: sit and think about what you would want to hear if you were in this situation and what would make you feel better. Try these out on your husband. It’s so easy to assume we know what’s best for them and what’s going to work, when it really may be something different. Give them what you think you may need, be it space or a long talk.
  • Let him Vent: encourage him to talk through the situation with you. Talking through and releasing your issues out loud can truly make a difference. Holding in your emotions is not good at all and only progresses your stress.

It can be easy to lose patience when your husband isn’t happy and it can be so easy to become discouraged when he doesn’t just perk up when we tell him it’s going to be ok. Fight those impatient feelings and don’t let yourself get frustrated. Remember that a marriage isn’t always 50/50. Sometimes we need our husbands to be strong, and sometimes, they need us to be strong. A lifetime is a long time and there will be so many things that will cause our husbands and ourselves to become stressed out. This is where we pick each other up, refer to this list, and make it our mission to make the stress chip away.

Where there are stressful moments, there are even happier moments to be had. Hang in there Dear Wife, Hubby will be happy again before you know it.

Be sure to keep this list on hand for the next time your husband gets a little stressed out or keep it to pass it on to a girlfriend that may be struggling with this issue. Subscribe to The Wife’s Life so you can always come back to this list when you need it and have access to all of the other wonderful wife advice coming your way.

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