Celebrating Halloween with your Husband

Three years ago I met my Dear Husband at a Halloween Party. I was so close to not going. I had just started becoming friends with the girls I went with. It was my new friend’s, friend’s party. I’m a pretty introverted person and was just then starting to get out and do more things socially so I convinced myself to go. I saw my husband the second I entered the house. He was extremely handsome and captured my attention. He was being loud and brought so much excitement to the room. He was drunk, and this is why he was acting this way. He is also pretty introverted and probably more shy than I am, so I’m thankful he had been drinking that particular night. The next thing I knew, I too was drunk and was no longer a bit shy. We ended up dancing in a group circle along with some of his friends and then as the others paired off, the two of us did as well. I don’t remember anything past that other than staring in his eyes and going in for a kiss as my friend’s told me it was time to go (what a bummer). We exchanged numbers and he texted me the very next day. We were flirting friends for awhile, he said he wasn’t interested in a girlfriend and I needed to make sure he wasn’t some random guy at a party looking for a one night stand. We were both very wrong and became close friends who clearly wanted more from the other. Us being the shy kids we were, we tip toed around everything until we couldn’t take it anymore. I invited him to my Birthday Party, then over to my house to watch Finding Nemo (he had never seen it!), and that night we had our first offical sober kiss.  Soon, we were quite the item and were extremely inseparable. 3 months after our first official kiss, he moved in since he practically lived with me anyways, 9 months after the kiss we were engaged, and 4 days before our 2 year dating anniversary, we were married. Needless to say, Halloween is a very special holiday for us now. Without Halloween, we wouldn’t be where we are today.

Halloween is mainly focused on children and trick or treating. That’s the first thing you think of when you think Halloween. It probably brings up some of your best memories too. If you have children, it’s probably the reason you look forward to it. Dressing the cuties up into little costumes and taking them out for some candy. For some adults, it’s about dressing up and showing as much skin as you can and going out to a party filled with alcohol and candy is just an added bonus. My husband and I fall in between those two things right now. We don’t have children and as thankful as we are for Halloween parties, that isn’t our scene anymore. There are so many neat and creative ways to celebrate Halloween that you can enjoy with your husband and I just had to share them with you.

  1. Candy and Scary Movies: Yes, it may sound cliche, Scary Movies on Halloween. But that is part of the fun! Half of the Scary Movies are cheesy but some out there are actually frightening, even if it’s just from jump scares. Go to the store and stock up on some of your favorite candy and bring up Netflix and get ready for a sugar filled night full of giggles and screams and enjoy it. Here are some scary movie’s on Netflix you may consider:
  •  Dead Snow- Apparently this one will also make you laugh, Nazi Zombies.
  • The Paranormal Activity Movies- I actually like these movies. They are creepy and have a following story.
  • The Caller- Any movie about someone dead calling you, CREEPY.

2. Halloween Inspired Snacks: Check out all of these cute Halloween themed foods. If you like to         cook like I do, you will have just as fun making these as you will eating them. They will certainly             put you in the festive mood! Check these fun treats out!

3. Haunted Houses: I promise you, as cliche as they sound, they are actually a lot of fun! Even if            you don’t get scared that easy it’s fun spending a night holding your husband’s hand as you walk            through some pretty creative Haunted Houses/Trails. You probably will have a scream or two, but if        you really don’t think you will, I promise you will have some laughs and make some memories. It’s          worth participating in and almost every town has a few to choose from.

What do you and your spouse do to celebrate Halloween together? Share your idea’s and tips below!

Have a Happy Halloween

Sunday Salted Caramel Latte

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I’m beginning to battle a cold. So some handcrafted Salted Caramel Lattes with hand whipped Whip Cream for my husband and I was exactly the Sunday treat we needed.

The 4 C’s of Marriage

Marriage is probably one, if not THE biggest commitment you will make in your lifetime. You are vowing to stay with a person through out an entire lifetime, for better or for worse, for richer or poor, and in sickness and in health. A lifetime is a long time. You change, your spouse will change, life itself will throw you curve balls that you never would have imagined going through. The beautiful thing about marriage is that during all of those fun transitions, you will never have to go through them alone. As a spouse, there are so many things that will come your way. Many, many wonderful things, some bad, some unexpected. Whatever comes your way, it’s important to take care of your marriage. Divorce rate’s are way too high in this day and age. Some people get scared of Marriage because of it. They think that with such a high number, how could they possibly dodge that bullet? What are the odd’s that their marriage wouldn’t be a part of the growing number? Some people are so scared and fixated on numbers and other marriages who have failed to realize that they are in control of their own marriage and the fate of it. There is nothing external that can end your marriage without you letting it in. There is no certainty that your marriage will fail. Marriage is the most beautiful thing one can join but it does take work, just like all great things. While all Marriages are unique, and no Marriage is perfect, there are basic guidelines that most every marriage needs in order to reach it’s full potential. Which brings us to the 4 C’s of Marriage. These are 4 things that all Marriages need, no matter how unique or how long or short the Marriage has been. Take a look and take them to heart while reading.

 

  1. Communication: When I talk with my friends and others about Marriage, I always stress the importance of Communication. I believe it is the most important thing you need in a Marriage. Without Communication your whole Marriage is shut off. Imagine if your husband never said a word to you, imagine if you always had to just guess if your husband had things he needed fixed in the marriage, would you be able to read his mind? Imagine a world where you couldn’t tell your husband when you were worried or sad or upset. You just bottled in everything you felt and dealt with it alone instead of having your partner to help you through it like he vowed to do. Did you fall in love with your husband without speaking a word to him nor him to you? No. Communication is what brought you together as a couple, Communication will be what keeps you together too. Divorces continue to grow because so many people keep their marriage concerns to themselves. They expect a problem to fix itself or for their spouse to read their mind and then fix the problem they are having. They expect the impossible to be done. You may think, well he should know it’s a problem! As true as that can be sometimes, we need to remember men have different minds than us. They have different emotions. Something huge to us may never even cross his mind. Women are emotional creatures. Men…not always. This is when we need to sit our husband’s down and calmly explain the problem, how it makes us feel, and why it makes us feel that way. A problem cannot and will not be fixed until you communicate the problem to your spouse. Not only does Communication allow us to discuss our issues and fix them but Communication also brings us closer to our spouse. The more you share, the closer you are. That’s just how it is. You don’t marry to have someone go and work for you to provide for you, you don’t marry someone just to have someone, your husband doesn’t marry you because he wants someone to take care of him or children, he didn’t marry you because you can cook well. While those are perks and can be important to some, Marriage is about the mental, emotional, and psychical connection between two people. Communication keeps all of those connections alive and kicking. Marriage isn’t about the convenience or what the other person can help you gain. Marriage is about love. Nothing more, Nothing Less. Communication is important is all aspects of your marriage. If you have one thing in your marriage, let it be Communication. It truly is the difference between Love and Divorce. 
  2. Compromise: Don’t roll your eyes. Compromise is very important in marriage, because you have to do lots of it. Think about it, you and your husband both lived separate lives before you knew each other. He had his family, you had yours. You had your job, he had his. Even though it’s hard to imagine that life, it still happened. When you got together, all of those things you did separately are now being worked around the life of your new unit. You inherit his family members, his friends, his hobbies, his habits, and his schedule, all while he inherited yours. Working all that in into one conjoined life, things can get tricky. For example, he just HAS to spend Thanksgiving with both of his divorced parents and he could not even fathom not seeing them both that day. You cannot fathom not seeing both of your parents either, you always go to grandma’s at 2pm on Thanksgiving day….but he always goes to his grandma’s at 1pm on Thanksgiving day. It also just so happens your mother’s both have their Thanksgiving at, you guessed it, the same time. So you see the problem here. You can’t just spend the Holiday’s a part from one another. You are your own little family now too. But you both want to be at different places, at the same time. This is when Compromise comes into play. You can’t just give him his way, or else you’ll be hurt, but it goes the other way around too. You want to both walk away from the table happy. This will take compromise. You will have to change somethings and so will he. You have to realize you aren’t a kid anymore, you aren’t single anymore, it’s not just about you. So you can’t pout when you don’t get exactly what you want. So you go into discussion and work out a fair compromise. You’ll be at his grandma’s house at 2pm that day and he will be at your mom’s house that night. The next year, you’ll swap. Marriage will be full of compromises like this. You have to be able to bend, sacrifice, and change for the good of your marriage.
  3. Comfort: Earlier I talked about all of the highs and lows of life. Since you are attached to your husband for a lifetime, chances are you will encounter many of those experiences together. When it comes to the lows, it doesn’t always just involve the woman needing comfort. Your husband will also need it. Ladies, Men may not be as emotional as us but they do have emotions. Nothing is as soothing after a bad day than knowing when you get home, you will have someone to love on you, listen to you vent about it, knowing someone will have your back and try their hardest to make you smile when you are frowning. What kind of marriage is a marriage where the two people involved could care less if the other person was happy? When my husband has a bad day, I feel bad myself. Because I can’t stand seeing him anything less than happy. You should always be there to pick up your spouse when they are down. If you can’t count on your spouse to help you out, who can you? You are a team. You give, you take. Your spouse is your home. With your spouse is where you should relax. With your spouse is where you should feel safe and completely yourself.
  4. Cuddles: This one seems like such a no-brainer but you would be surprised the amount of couples whose only intimacy is when they are trying to have a child. Intimacy isn’t just about sex. Intimacy is about being connected in all ways with your spouse. Feeling loved in all manners. Cuddling makes us feel safe, loved, comforted, and close to our spouse in ways that we aren’t with others. Make time for intimacy, even if it’s just a quick cuddle session at the end of the day. Life is busy, people are tired, but it’s something you need to make room for. Being intimate is a key part in feeling close with your spouse. A closeness you don’t share with anyone else. Just the two of you. Not only is cuddling good for intimacy, Cuddling is good for other reasons. It is known and scientifically proven to help curb depression and anxiety, help you sleep at a better hour, boost “feel good” hormones that help you fight of sickness, and couples who cuddle after sex are known to be happier with their relationships over all. Read more about it here: 6 Amazing Benefits of Cuddling

So go cuddle up with your husband and take these tips to heart. It is never to late to improve your Marriage, even the most perfect feeling ones.

What are some of the most important things to your marriage? Comment below! I would love to hear your opinions.

The Perfect Oven

How amazing is this stove? My friend pinned it on Pinterest today and I fell in love. I didn’t even know a stove like this even existed! It has everything you need. IMG_0137.JPG

Easy Pumpkin Bread

Easy and Pumpkin Bread, words rare to see in a sentence together. Last night, I ran out of some of my homemade Pumpkin Pie Cookies (stay tuned for more on these!) and wanted to make a new Pumpkin Treat. Pumpkin Bread is one of my hubby and I’s favorite fall treats. Used to, we would just pick up a slice from Starbucks or some other cafe while we were visiting. This year, I started dabbling in creating my own recipe’s and knew an Easy Pumpkin Bread was something I wanted to come up with. When you think of bread you think yeast, having to have the right amount of baking powder and soda, you stress over it rising correctly, etc, etc. With something you eat while relaxing, you don’t want to stress yourself out before it’s even done. So take a deep breath, stop your endless browsing through recipe, after recipe trying to find a simple Pumpkin Bread to bake up. You have found the one you need and I bet you already have most of this at home! 

This recipe creating process was almost the perfect cooking moment. I was super excited thinking “YES! I have all the ingredients!” and got started. Mid-way through I realized I was out of Eggs. So off to the store I went at 10pm at night for a carton of eggs. I had gotten myself so excited for the bread, I wasn’t waiting. We never run out of eggs! So after the store, I got back to work and I was so anxious for it to cool down enough for me to eat it. My house during the cooking process smelled better than any pumpkin candle out there. Which made the trip to the store worth it.

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What you’ll need:

  • 1 1/2 Cup of Sugar
  • 1 2/3 Cups of Self-Rising Flour
  • 2.5 Teaspoons of Cinnamon
  • 4 Teaspoons of Pumpkin Pie Spice
  • 1 Cup of Canned Pumpkin (Not Pumpkin Pie Filling)
  • 1/2 Cup of Vegetable Oil (or canola if you prefer)
  • 1/2 Cup of Water 
  • 2 Eggs

What a small ingredient list! :)

How to Prepare:

  1. Mix your Sugar, Flour, Cinnamon, and Pumpkin Pie Spice together in one bowl. IMG_0067
  2. In a separate bowl whisk together your Pumpkin, Oil, Water, and Eggs.IMG_0068
  3. With a large spoon, slowly stir your Dry Ingredients into your Wet Ingredients until it’s well blended.
  4. Pour mixture into a greased Loaf Pan (most loaf pans are 9X5).
  5. Bake 60-65 minutes on 350 Degrees or until done in the center. 
  6. Carefully Remove from Loaf Pan to a Cooling Rack until it’s cool enough to slice.

All that’s left is to enjoy! 

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Feel free to share this recipe around. I know so many people who skip out on yummy recipes just like this one because the ingredient list is a mile long and they spend hours in the kitchen. it doesn’t always have to be that way.

Let me know what you think! What is your favorite fall treat?

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Pumpkin Crumb Cake

Pumpkin? Love it.

Crumbs? Love it (when it isn’t in my floor).

Cake? LOVE IT.

The Fall season is upon us, and as I have mentioned a time or two before, I LOVE Fall. Not just because the temperature is pure perfection, but the food is even better. Pumpkin is everywhere in everything, because it’s fantastic. Especially in desserts. When I saw this recipe from Cookies and Cups I HAD to bake it up.

This is my first fall dessert post, and I can easily assure you that it won’t be the last. In fact I already have one planned out to cook next week! But anyways, on to this delicious, fall flavor filled, Pumpkin Crumb Cake.

Not only does it taste amazing, chances are, you probably already have most of the ingredients. The ingredients are simple, which also makes this an easy and affordable dessert.

What you’ll need: 

Cake:

  • 2 cups of All Purpose Flour
  • 2 Cups of Sugar
  • 1 teaspoon of Salt
  • 2 1/2 teaspoons of Baking Powder
  • 1 1/2 Teaspoons of Cinnamon
  • 1/2 Cup of Butter
  • 2 Eggs
  • 1 Tablespoon of Vanilla
  • 1 Cup of Milk
  • 1 15oz can of Pumpkin

Crumb: 

  • 1 cup of Brown Sugar
  • 1 1/2 Cups of All Purpose Flour
  • 1/2 Teaspoon of Salt
  • 1/2 Cup of  Butter
  • 1 Teaspoon of Pumpkin Pie Spice (Optional)

 

How to throw this all together: 

  1. Preheat your oven to 350 Degrees.
  2. Make sure and spray a 9×13 dish down with some cooking spray. 
  3. Whisk together your flour, salt, cinnamon, and baking powder. I recommend putting on an apron! :)IMG_9920
  4. In a large bowl, using a hand mixer, mix together your Sugar and Butter together, until it’s nice and mixed up. Then mix in your eggs, vanilla, and pumpkin.IMG_9918it already smells delicious at this point
  5. Mix in about 1/3rd of your dry mix, followed by half of your milk. Keep alternating your dry mix and milk, ending with your dry mix. Mix it for about a minute until it’s thick and smooth.IMG_9921look at those delicious looking swirls! 
  6. Spread it evenly into your pan.IMG_9922I thought my festive yellow pan went well with the pumpkin cake

Time for your crumb mixture:

Take a pastry cutter or two knives and cut all of the crumb ingredients together.Then take the tops of your fingers and form little crumbs.

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Then spread it all over your cake mixture.

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*I added the pumpkin pie spice. The original recipe does not call for it. 

Now all you gotta do is bake any where from 45-55 minutes depending on your oven. Just check it with a toothpick and make sure the center comes out clean.

Enjoy it :) It tastes awesome fresh and leftover through out the week. 

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Let me know what you think below. Do you love pumpkin as much as I do, or do you have another favorite fall flavor?

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Tackling 2nd Shift and Marriage.

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When my husband got his new job, boy were we thrilled. God had blessed our life SO much by giving him the job. My husband’s pay more than doubled, he now would have insurance, and it meant we could finally start planning the next stages of our life. Well, a week or so later when we found out my husband would be working 2nd shift, my heart sank. I loved our life of dinners together every night, staying up late on Friday’s, and seeing my husband from 3:30 until bedtime. We had grown accustomed to first shift living and the change had me devastated. My friend who had been doing it for years and my husband both assured me that it wasn’t the end of the world and that we would adjust. I felt bitter towards the shift change but knew this job was what was best for our family. I began to focus on the positives and get creative with our new schedule. My husband got to train 8 weeks on First Shift and we cherished it, but by the time Second Shift came around, I was ready to make the best of it and had some plans set up for our new life. When we first got the news, I searched for articles about 2nd shift living and shockingly didn’t find much help. Thankfully I was creative and I had my friend to go to for advice. So for the other women out there who are in a similar boat, here’s some tips to get you through it. I am lucky enough to be able to stay home and work on my writing, so your lifestyle may be a bit different, but I know you can benefit from these ideas no matter what kind of lifestyle you have set up. It’s all about making it work and doing what you have to do. These things work well for me and my husband:

Try and get on similar Sleep Schedules: I know for some with Kids in school, this one can be tough. But when you can do this, I highly suggest it. I get up with my husband everyday and we still go to bed together shortly after he gets home. Some people like to stay up all night and then sleep until it’s time for their husband to leave. Which ever way works best for you guys, follow that plan. My husband is tired when he comes home from work, so we like to head that way when he gets home, and then we set an alarm to get up a few hours before he has to head to work. So we spend an hour or so together after he gets home, and then some time before he goes to work and then I do my normal routine after he has left.  At first it may be hard to make yourself wake up when you know you don’t have to rush off some where and the hours are there for you to keep sleeping, but it’s so important to make time for your marriage. So set that alarm and force yourself out of bed when it goes off. You’ll wake up shortly after and you’ll be happy about the time you get to spend together. Trust me, I hate the days that we over sleep and I barely get to see him. It gets easier as your body adjusts to waking up at a new time.

Make Dinner for Lunch: I have always found great pleasure in cooking a nice dinner for my husband every night. When second shift came around, I thought our dinner days were over since he wouldn’t be home during dinner time. Wrong! I could still cook and I could still have dinner with him. Our dinner would just be at noon instead of 6 o’clock. I do try and stick to simple but delicious homecooked meals during the week that are quicker to cook because you don’t want to spend all of your with your hubby in the kitchen. I have really been liking slow cooker meals and any time I can prep ahead, I do. Then on the weekends I make my more elaborate dinners that take more time.

Make the most of your time: Do as many household chores and errands that you can when your husband isn’t home. It’s important to make the most of your time together. By getting everything done when he is at work, you can spend the time he is at home, cuddled up to him, not worrying about having to spend a couple of hours at the Grocery Store. Make every second with your husband count. Make the most of it. Don’t dwell on work or how much 2nd shift sucks, make your time together as pleasant as you can. Enjoy it. That way when he has to return to work on Monday or later in the day, you can say that you enjoyed time with your husband that day. When he’s home and you have the time to spend with him, enjoy it being together. Keep things that keep you apart (like errands and girl time) for the time he is going to be apart from you anyways.

Midnight Date Night: My husband and I used to go out every Friday night and then spent the weekend in, being lazy. When my husband went to 2nd shift, our date nights seemed to be over with. By the time he got off, surely everything had to be closed. So we had to schedule our dates for the weekend days. Which meant if something else was going on, we would just have to forfeit our special 1 on 1 time together. Wrong again. Believe it or not, there are some restaurants in almost every city in the world that stay open late. In our town we have Applebees and a local eatery. So on some Friday’s we meet up when he gets off work and have ourselves a little midnight date night to kick off the weekend. I still get dressed up and he takes nice clothes to change into after work. You don’t just have to go out either, you can always cook a nice romantic meal or sit out some chocolate covered strawberries with some wine and have it right at home.

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate: Anytime I give marriage advice, Communication is always something I advise. No matter the situation. So of course it wouldn’t be any different here. Communication is key and one- if not the most- important things in a marriage. Always communicate with your husband. Talk to him about his day, about yours, any feelings you may have and vice versa. Me and my husband talk about everything. Serious things, normal things, silly things. I think it is one reason why our marriage is so strong. I praise communication. It can and will get you through anything. The more you talk, the more you connect, the more you learn. When my husband has a break, we talk all the way through it. If I think of something I want to tell him, like something funny on TV or something that may have happened, I just text it to him. Even if he can’t reply back right away, it let’s him know I think about him, and I still get to share moments of my afternoon with him.

I hope these 5 tips helped you in some way. I know they certainly turned a less than perfect situation into a decent one for us. Of course I would much rather him be on first shift, but I have learned to make 2nd shift work and found ways to enjoy it. Marriage is about adjusting when different things in life come up. No matter what happens in life, our spouses will always be there, no matter what. So hang in there, I know it sucks now but you will adjust and you will get through it. And remember, 2nd shift doesn’t have to last forever ;)

How do you and your spouse handle changes? Do you have any more advice for 2nd shift wives? Share in the comments below. I would love to hear from you!

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